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Showing posts with label caring. Show all posts

Tuesday, May 3, 2011

VISITS OF LOVE

contributed by:
Leroy K. Pickett
First United Methodist Church
Downers Grove, Illinois


Early in 1995, I experienced difficult challenges in attempting to satisfy requirements for transporting agricultural machinery on European roads.  I thought that I was doing all right personally, but found myself in deep depression by August. When the doctor failed to prescribe the correct medication for me to recover, I left my apartment in the Quad Cities, at the west edge of Illinois, and returned to my home in Downers Grove, Illinois. 

My recovery took nearly five months, but health returned quickly after my wife and I convinced the doctor to prescribe the medication that had previously worked well for me. While at home, I rested much of the time and sometimes took long walks through one or more of the nearby parks. 

A retired pastor, associated with my church, and his wife lived just a few blocks away from my home. From time to time, he took walks in the community and sometimes stopped to visit with me. Our conversations usually were centered on family, the lovely tree-shaded community where we live and occasionally something special one of us had read in a newspaper or book.

Even though I do not remember the details from any single visit, I frequently remember the sharing and love experienced at a time that I needed it most. It was certainly a blessing to have someone care enough to give me a lift by a visit of love.  The visits of my caring and loving friend have influenced my thoughts and actions in positive ways during the more than 15 years since his visits, a time in which I have generally experienced good health.

Friday, January 28, 2011

WHAT CAN THE CHURCH FAMILY DO?

contributed by:
Dr. E. Maurlea Babb
family therapist
member of First United Methodist Church,
Glen Ellyn, Illinois

How many times have you walked down the halls of your church and someone says, "Hi, how are you?"???  The perfunctory answer is, "Fine" and we ‘pass on by’ without touching each other in any way.

Recently when asked how I was, I replied, "Do you really want to know?"  The other person paused, made eye contact and replied, “Wow, we don’t act as though we really care about one another, do we?”  The dialogue continued for a few minutes and we both left each other with a smile and a hug.  I believe that we both felt heard, loved, and special to one another for those few moments. 

Although most of us are caring persons we get caught in own busy-ness while persons who could benefit from a few moments of our time are left in their lonely place of fear, with their image of not being a worthy person, etc., etc.

If our primary need is that of ‘belonging’, that need to feel acceptable and loveable needs to come from our family – even our church family -- no matter what behaviors we exhibit.   God’s unconditional love may be impossible for us humans to express and yet we are called to be ministers of grace to others.

So often that grace, that love, is expressed with ‘TIME.’  Giving a portion of our lives to ‘TIME’ with others can develop a true sense of a healthy, caring church family. 

So, when  someone says, “Hi, how are you?”, what will be your response?